One of the hardest things for most people—especially women—is to lavish ourselves with compliments. If you deflect when someone has something nice to say to you, you’re not alone. It doesn’t feel comfortable to hear praise from others, let alone ourselves, and not second guess it. We’ve been taught that it is egotistic or vain. “How dare you feel yourself!” But how can we ever bask in our own glory if we can’t feel the positive energy of a compliment? From others or ourselves.
It is so important for us to compliment ourselves and acknowledge the things we have accomplished. The first time my Spiritual Advisor asked me to do this, I felt so weird. It took me a total of 2 minutes to say what I needed to say to myself, but it felt like it took 10 minutes. It was a bunch of “ummm” and “ahhh’s,” and confusion around what I should say without feeling awkward.
Today, I want you to take a few minutes to think about what you’ve accomplished over the last month and what that means. Have you even told anyone about your accomplishments? Have you given yourself kudos and a big clap on the back for what you’ve achieved? Well, today is the day to do just that.
First, start by writing down the things you’re proud you did this last month. Nothing is too big or small. If you got out of bed when everything inside of you was screaming not to, that’s an accomplishment. If you lost your temper and later reflected on how you could handle that situation differently moving forward, that’s an accomplishment. Achievements don’t have to be things you’re accustomed to getting gold stars for. Staying true to you in a moment when it was hard is worth celebrating.
Now, take a few minutes and compliment yourself for each of them.
Here are some examples:
I purchased a new home, and I never thought that could happen. I am so proud of myself.
I let myself cry when I’d normally stay stoic. I am so proud of how far I’ve come.
I honored my sacred time this week, and it feels good to have “me” time.
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