Hi, beauties! How are you feeling? Have you started to bust through some limiting beliefs you may have had about yourself and your worth? Now’s not the time to give up—you’re in the home stretch! We know you’ve gone through some uncomfortable moments these last almost two weeks, but that’s part of doing the work. And we’re so proud of how far you’ve come. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, you’ve already changed so much. You’re in the midst of a deep remembering, and it’s truly beautiful to witness.
Today’s exercise will actually take more than 15 minutes, but it’s so worth it. Throughout today, keep a notepad nearby or your Notes app open. Today is basically one continuous check-in with yourself. Anytime you start to feel emotions surface—anger, judgement, shame, joy—stop and think about WHY these are surfacing. Ask your self why 5 times.
For example, an acquaintance invites you to happy hour after work. You don’t really want to go, but your immediate reaction is to say “Yes” because you feel like you should? Well, why? Because you’d feel bad telling them no. Why? Because you feel like you can’t let them down. Why? Because you don’t like it when other people let you down. Why? And so on. Get it? At the end of 5 why’s, you will have gotten to the ROOT of the emotion, not just what’s on the surface.
Don’t be afraid to really dig deep. Don’t let yourself off the hook. We each have a lot of societal and parental conditioning to unravel. When I started using this exercise regularly, I uncovered MY feelings about certain situations. Not society’s feelings, my mother’s feelings, or my best friend’s feelings. I didn’t even know I thought some of the things I did. We’ve all gone along with things because we feel like we “should,” but really, we’re the masters of our own domain, and we can feel and do whatever the hell we want. I’ll say it again: Your feelings are valid. No matter what they are.
It may take some time to become okay with the things you feel at your core. They may be so radically different than what you’ve known, you may feel shame for even having those types of feelings at all. That’s okay. And perfectly normal. All we’re doing today is identifying them so that the next time a similar situation arises, YOU can respond. The real you. The authentic you. Not the you you think you have to be.
You are amazing and wonderful exactly as you are. No asterisks, fine print, or caution required.
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